Lady Determined(pronoun & adjective): Kylie Jane. 23 years young. Writer. Avid Reader. Beginning Artist. Aunt. Sister. Daughter. Cousin. Niece. Best friend. Determined. Caring.
I welcome you to my humble abode. I hope to create a wonderful place within this blog – capturing readers with my words, comforting those who will relate to certain topics regarding future posts I have planned. I hope to create posts that you feel you just have to share with your friends, your family, or just whoever.
I want to create a sense of community. I have been diagnosed with depression, social Anxiety Disorder, and general anxiety disorder, along with PTSD. I am a survivor of rape, have had first hand experience with emotional abuse (and also an observer of it, in more than one couple – not only couples but in more than one different family dynamic also – though I will never divulge into specifics, because these are very private things*) a survivor of an isolated incident of domestic violence, an incident in which I came close to losing my life.
But these diagnoses are nothing that I am ashamed of – nor will I let anyone make me feel “less than” for accepting these diagnoses. I have come along way since I was first told each separate one – I no longer hide behind the xanax they insisted I would need forever in order to cope with these issues. It’s true – for awhile, I simply wasn’t able to cope with the anxiety without the medicine.
There were times when I would wake up in a state of sheer panic, so terribly afraid, and I would let the panic attack course through my body and I would shake uncontrollably, crying so hard it felt I would soon no longer be able to breathe. These were the times that I relied on xanax – when I didn’t quite know how to cope; when I hadn’t quite accepted yet the things that had occurred that were causing me to wake up feeling so deeply terrified.
Slowly, ever so slowly, I began to teach myself ways of coping with these anxiety attacks. I would take a small dose of some form of an anti anxiety – sometimes attivan, sometimes .25mg of xanax – and then I would plug my headphones in, turn Machine Gun Kelly up as loud as it would go, wrap heavy blankets around me as a cocoon and slowly let my mind become more powerful than the anxiety*.
Social Anxiety, Depression, General Anxiety Disorder , PTSD – these illnesses are no less real than cancer, pneumonia, or appendicitis. The difference is – they don’t manifest themselves physically. That isn’t to say that there are not physical side effects – but these are all mental illnesses. And sometimes, these illnesses can be even more deadly – because there isn’t an MRI, or a Cat Scan, or blood work that can be done to determine an illness inside your mind.
That doesn’t make these things any less real, or any less scary. In fact, my personal experience has taught me people seem far less inclined to acknowledge mental illness. In that same respect – I know believe that far too often doctors are misdiagnosing people. Because there is a difference between feeling depressed/sad/down – and having depression. A difference between being in a situation which may cause you anxiety – and having anxiety disorder. There is a difference between being shy, and having social anxiety.
I welcome you to come along on my journey of self discovery – to know that whatever you may be facing, you are not facing it alone. I have many goals I would like to achieve when it comes to educating the masses on mental illness – that mental illness is ABSOLUTELY NOT synonymous with “crazy.” And that crazy is more of a description for the mentally disturbed. (For example: serial killers, mothers who kill their children, sociopaths.)
I welcome you to join me while I learn about myself, while I discover what it will take to start a career doing what I love, what I crave – what I feel so passionate and determined* to do and accomplish in my life.
*1- I may, however – describe the feeling and witnessing this type of abuse through a vague first person point of view. It would be specific of the feeling, but of nothing else.
*2 – this is a link to a post I wrote about anxiety in my old blog. I highly recommend reading it.
*3 this is a link to a post from my old blog about what I am determined to do with my life – and whatwho inspired me.